"All, however, is not back to normal. H doesn't touch me or use any affectionate language. He will kiss me on the cheek if one of us is going on a trip without the other but that is about it."
I'm curious if that ever returned? Would love to hear more about your progress over the years.
Then in '09 you wrote this:
"I've been getting onto my DH's case about his weight and he hates it. In my defense, I have to say that he's put on lots of weight in the last couple of years. My goal is to STOP nagging him to exercise, to stop bringing up weight/health issues. Instead I want to up my rate of words of affirmation. I know that DH loves them and yet I'm very stingy with them."
Granted this is from years ago, but you never got a response. Sounds like you've read the 5LL, so you may remember from that book that nagging won't get a response from anyone. He already knows you want him to lose weight, so you don't need to constantly remind him. Instead, fill his love tank via whatever his language is and that will give him incentive to fulfill your wishes. I'm just bringing it up again after all this time because you expressed that you're having trouble again, so it may be a good time to re-read 5LL and put those practices into action. And DB/ DR too of course
