Guy, I didn't see a link to your old thread but did read all your posts in this one. Have you read the Married Man Sex Life Primer? If not you should. It sounds like you're engaging in 100% beta behavior. Your wife wants you to be a mix of alpha and beta. Just based on what I'm reading here which obviously is just a snapshot of your sitch, it sounds like you're going down cheeseless tunnels. Your R is not advancing, it's in limbo. It sounds like your W is waiting for you to take action to bring the passion back, but at the same time you're waiting for her to initiate. The passion isn't going to just magically reappear, you both need to do something to bring it back. This is where MMSLP comes in, it'll give you methods to approach her in very alpha ways that may break you out of this rut. Time to try something different, try a different tunnel and look for the cheese. Remember what Michele said, our natural inclination is to set up a lawn chair next to the cheeseless tunnel waiting for the missing cheese to come back. Ask yourself if that's where you are.
I have another question, you mentioned she was training for a triathalon, so I assume she's in pretty good shape. What about you? Are you ripped or pudgy? If pudgy, time to do something about that. MMSLP will highlight why you cannot let your W be higher than you on the hotness scale. I hadn't engaged in bodybuilding for years, but jumped back into it after getting the bomb. 3 months later I'm looking like an underwear model and man, it's done wonders for my self-esteem. I started doing it with the hopes that it would attract my wife back to me, but it made me feel so much better about myself that now I'm sticking with it for me!
Review your 180's, you may need to modify them since your sitch isn't advancing. Take stock, try and determine what is and is not working and make adjustments. DB'ing is a fluid process requiring constant adjustments.
