You made me smile :-) It's great you are focusing on the small stuff, which added up amounts to big progress. I think you and I have similar personalities. I'm also super organized and a "fixer" and we both married people who brought that fun/spontaneous side to our lives that we were missing.
I'm happy to hear you are doing better and eating yummy cake. I'm also glad you came to this site when it's still not too late to save your marriage. I wish I had done this two years ago.
