Sorry Sandi I didn't see your post till now.

I am slightly stunned because she is such a rational person who is acting more and more bi-polar. I stayed as neutral as I could during the whole conversation. I didn't get mad but I opened up when she asked me questions. Which is something I need to learn to do more of.

I tried my hardest to keep my comments pressure free. She kept asking me questions about whether I played out our senario and found that it was hard to see us in a good M. I told her that I have thought about the "what if" and it gets me no where so I choose to focus instead of the right now. That I am keeping an open mind to the whole sitch and that I think she should too.

I wanted soooooo badly to tell her that I truly think we are ment to grow old together. We have such an amazing foundation which has not been tarnished by PA, abuse and the likes. Rather we neglected our feelings early in the R and never fully addressed them. Yeah it's going to be hard to work through them now but the base we have should not be squandered.

"It is almost always harder to find and start a new marriage than to fix a current one"


Me - 30
W - 28
M 4
t 6
ILYBINILWY #1 Jan - 2011
Band-aid Jan 11'
ILYBINILWY #2 7/28/12