Wishing, Before I read your posting, I had thought about the money issue and was going to say, he is projecting on to you what he's doing and sure enough...he is! He is blaming you for spending money and yet, he's going to New Orleans for the weekend.
Mlcers tend to project on to the spouses what they are doing or have done, hence the spending of money is the only thing he thinks he has on you. I hope that you are not constantly defending your spending to him...if you are stop right now! You know what you are doing is honest and correct for your children and right now, that's all that matters. I would sit down and make an expenditure spreadsheet so that you have proof of what you spend on your children. You may need this down the road for proof if you are questioned about it by your lawyer.
For now, think of something fun to do this weekend. Leave your h out in the wind to twirl around like a top.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
