I hardly think confronting her is going to do any good. What would you do about it? You said she's had several EA's since the M, and now she's living in a house away from you. Some people hardly feel obligated to show faithfulness when they are S in the M.
Confrontation, threats, and fighting is not the way to deal with this sort of stitch. The more you try to control her, the more she's going to prove that you can't. Leave her alone. Stop asking her questions about her personal life. You will never get her back this way, and if she did come back...it would be no time until you would be going through it again. She's a serial cheater. As long as you take her back as a serial cheater.....it's not going to change. Why did her first M fail? I dare say she had the same problem in that M, too.
Go read my post on your other thread.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
