I am so so sorry that you are in such pain today and that your mind is playing such tricks on you. you have crushed that awful not true thought before and you can do it again... i brought over a quote form scared silly on her thread that i really really like...
"i think we, as women, try so hard to be what our H's need. i see some on here so depressed at not measuring up to what their H's require. they accept the negative evaluations given by these H's. i did, too.
all i can say to them is this: accept responsibility for what you know you could have been better at. however, it's not your responsibility to make someone happy. don't let them blame their unhappiness on you.
little by little, like a slow errosion, they chip away at our self esteem, blaming us for not being everything they want, changing that definition whenever it suits them.
know you are good. know you are worthy of love and respect. know you are not to blame for their unhappiness."
Me(f): 51 W: 41 DP:8 M:3 T:10 "W not happy" 7/11 D final: 8/13
