Dropping the rope, hope I'm doing the right thing.

[hopefulinga]

Hi SS,

I'm reading through some of your thread and this caught my eye:

i think we, as women, try so hard to be what our H's need. i see some on here so depressed at not measuring up to what their H's require. they accept the negative evaluations given by these H's. i did, too.

all i can say to them is this: accept responsibility for what you know you could have been better at. however, it's not your responsibility to make someone happy. don't let them blame their unhappiness on you.

little by little, like a slow errosion, they chip away at our self esteem, blaming us for not being everything they want, changing that definition whenever it suits them.

know you are good. know you are worthy of love and respect. know you are not to blame for their unhappiness.

How true and how easy it is to forget. I'm glad to see where you are and where you've been. It is very encouraging to see your personal progress and getting to the point where you are happy and finding yourself again.