Hey, Afa. Wow, good for you. Hearing about how well you're doing makes me feel better, especially today, which was such a bad day.
My coach said the WAS usually behave like a 5-year-old, trying to establish independence and control. If you show them they are free and under control, they relax and actually listen a little.
Your W is following the WAS pattern, and your responses to her behaviors have been great. Good job.
Talk to the L about: -Retainer -Fees -Hours your case might take -Alimony/support you can expect -Collaborative options
This will be hard. It was for me. The first time I saw a lawyer, my shirt was drenched in nervious sweat at the end. Maybe men are different. Anyway, think that this D might not happen anyway and you're doing this to be prepared just in case.
From now on: -Keep track of your expenses -Keep financial statements organized -Find all tax returns -Closely monitor joint accounts/credit cards.
I strongly suggest interviewing 3 lawyers (at least) and decide on the one that makes you feel most comfortable. And remember to wait for her to take the first step, which hopefully will not happen.
Keep up the good spirits and let us know how the meeting with the L went. Tori
