went to my counselor today. He said sounds like my h is giving me just enough attention so I won't leave but not enough for me to feel secure. Also that maybe I came off as a mother figure sometimes. Gotta back off. But he too treats me like I am his child many times the way he treats me and speaks to me. Said I have to do more for myself. (i have to kick myself in the ass as I am depressed). Next week is auditions for a community theatre play so I am going to audition.
Gotta question here. In december my husbands work has a big christmas party. That's where he introduced me to OW last year. I don't want us to go. IF he suggests it should I say so? What if he wants to go himself? DB coach thinks I should go and hold my head up high cuz I'm the wife.
One more question. Since H is still living at home and I am going to try and distance myself to protect myself. How do I interact? I am going to stay out late tonight so as not to be so available. One of my fears is that he will say to me is "well now you are not around so much and not working on the marriage" of course being around all the time like I have isn't helping either and he is hardly ever home except at night. So should I try to be in another room frequently? Should I just start by being out a couple nights a week? I know I need to be polite and show no emotion. Any advice?
