So the question is - should I take my phone to US Cellular to have them wipe my phone clean of the software - because he knows exactly who it is that I talk to, where Im at, etc. My GF think that if I did that then he would be questioning where I am, what Im doing, etc faster than what he is now cause he has the access. I think I should keep it on because I want him to be able to trust me. And if that is one way to gain trust, Id rather it stay on my phone. Thoughts?
Mrs D,
Have them delete the software. You are no longer married to him. If there ever is a future for you two, it will be a NEW relationship and trust will have to be gained that way. Not with him reading every text you make. Set some boundries. He shouldn't have access to that information anymore. If he wants to know, make him ask. Right now, he is cake eating. He has his gf, and knows that you will be the girl on the side if he wants.
Stop thinking about him and what he wants. It's time to start thinking about yourself and your son. That's it. If he wants to be a part of your life again one day, great! If not, his loss because you are making yourself one hell of a catch!
You know, one small step you can do to act like a divorced person is to change your name on here. How about just Ms D!
