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[labug]

I brought this over from another thread and am hoping T^2 will talk more about it.

As a guy, I think this is one of the top things you can do...we (some/most guys) just don't handle emotions well...either we feel guilty and give in, then resentful (maybe), or put up the safety walls, and can't grow due to denial blockage. Until something breaks us out of our conditioning, causing us to re-evaluate our resistance to the emotional aspects of life.

I think this dynamic was a big part of my M.

My question is: Does this mean we need to change who we are in order to fit with what "the guy" can handle?

I understand that being in a constant emotional storm is not good for anyone. And that we should let the emotion pass before responding or making decisions.

I believe a strong R should be able to handle all the emotions that come with it. Again not in a state of constant acting out but just knowing that there are strong feelings in an intimate R and that they will pass and not cause damage if both people are supportive.

Just my musings. I look forward to your input as I've followed you for a long time, even before you had your own thread.