Update...not really. But i'm struck by the odd dichotomy of my situation.
Obviously, I've been reading a ton on this subject. I look at how we interact at times, I look at what "successful" marriages look like, etc.
The good. We rarely have mean hurtful fights. Not to say we don't disagree, but it's never a grudge match We have a lot of emotional intimacy (at least on her end) she is always talking to me about how she feels, what she fears, etc but this is usually work related. At times she will open up to me about the personal stuff. I am getting better about being clear about what I want/need. She still does a lot of little things for me...like taking my dry cleaning in, getting me a coffee, coming to cheer me on in a race. She has been more active on FB "liking" or commenting on things I post. We do get along great, laugh, have fun. She talks about the future A LOT. I'm trying to be very positive, upbeat, funny, etc.
However, the physical affection piece is near zero. I asked her in light of our recent convo on being stuck if she wanted to take a break from sex. She said she needed to think about it, I brought it up again, she needed to think about it some more. No other kissing, hugging, hand holding, cuddling, etc.
I think we need to have a talk with the gist of it. We've tried your way, not it's time to try something different. It's going to be a shock to her on what i think we should do.
Of course, my fear is that she only sees me like a brother/friend and has no sexual/physical attraction. Well, it's not so much as a fear, but it would be hurtful. Logically, I can deal with but really emotionally it's different.
Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet. --Jean Jacques Rousseau.
