Turtles, Lists and Toilet Brushes

[labug]

labug - when you said one has to choose NOT to be involved in the no talk situation, could you help me to see how i can do that here, please?

I know this was probably pages ago and I don't really have an answer other than we all have to figure it out on our own.

I chose to distance myself from those who continued to live under those rules. I can't change them and they will only change when that is no longer working for them. I love them and wish them well but I've chosen differently.

So when I realized that the system wasn't working for me, I changed. But it had already infected my M and I'm angry about that. I'm working on forgiving those who made the rules.

My S(19) often says, "It's our secrets that keep us sick."

From S(23) I got this: "I say what I see, I say what I feel and then I'm open."

They are the best guides a Mom could have.