Maybe I am reading to much into it, but why tell me that I am missed and then say there is no hope. Am I being strung along? Is she just making sure that I can continue to give her time?
Have you read DB and/ or DR? It's all explained in there. First, you need to drop all your expectations. She is on a journey of discovery and you have to detach to allow her to make the journey as quickly as possible. Focus on you, not her. Second, memorize DB tip 32:
32. Do not believe any of what you hear and less than 50% of what you see. Your spouse will speak in absolute negatives because she is hurting and scared.
She says she misses you? Don't read anything into it. She says she wants a D? Again, don't read anything into it. You're going to hear a lot of conflicting info from her because despite what you see on the outside, she's struggling with a lot of turmoil on the inside and is trying to sort through her emotions. She will express that turmoil through confusing and conflicting comments, don't believe any of them.
I would absolutely not go along with D at this point. Leave that completely up to her, do not assist her in any way, shape or form. It is very common for WAW's to talk about divorce early on but then completely drop it if the LBS doesn't push it.
