Fade thanks for your input definitely take it to consideration. Yes the separation is on hold for now. I'm glad we did as seem like the consensus point out to not a good idea for now.
I just found out not everyone knows from her family just SIL and her husband. But yes that also crossed my mind about telling OM's wife, I think if I would've have the contact number of OMs W that time I blew a gasket I probably would've called her.
DEAR LORD... HOW DID I MISS THIS POST??
DO NOT do this Newman. It has a much better chance of completely blowing up in your face than working. If the EA continues, the OM will be exposed eventually anyway.
What you are doing... much of it... is CONTROLLING BEHAVIOR. This may be why your W is wanting to pull away from you. You should look into this and the role that it has played in your M.
Ok I'm trying this box quote thingy.
Denver, MLC, and Adinva, I'm not planning on contacting the OM's wife now, that was when everything blew up last week when it crossed my mind. I should've finished my thoughts when I replied about this. But what I thought is that now I'm in the better place here in DB forum, next time anything happen like that I'd definitely post here first. No more irrational moves--I hope.
Newman
me40; W43 M18; T~20 D18; S13 & S3 bomb 5/9/11 EA busted 4/30/12; 9/4/12; 4/29/13; 6/10/13 same OM
Separated 4/1/14
"Even a flicker of light will shine through darkness-12/25/2012"....better days ahead.
