Hang in there! The closing on the house is a huge step towards the finish line. Congrats on that.
Count me in for the virtual celebration when she finally moves out. Oh, and since you are a trained chef, you will have to cook for us ;-) And I'll bring tequila for everyone...
un fuerte abrazo!
Me & H: 44 D7, D6, S3 Together: 20y, M: 17y EA: 11/13/10, Sep: 12/23/10 EA becomes PA: Spring 2011 H filed for D: 09/06/12 D Negotiating began 2/15 OW seemingly gone on 3/15 Still negotiating D
Gracias KG. Well it's done house is mine. Exw went nutty during the closing she argued and fought the mortgage people for no reason. It took 2hrs because of her. She cried like crazy. She didn't cry when we divorced? 45 days and she has to leave.
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
Wow! She wanted the divorce - but I guess she just thought you'd walk away. Like most of our spouses & OP. Somehow the exes think we will just be nice and let them have everything and I know in my case - OW thought she was just going to step into my life, have my house, inherit 3 kids - her husband told me "She always wanted a daughter (well NOT mine!).
But the point is - it is DONE. The house WILL be yours. She will be gone and you can move fwd knowing you did everything you could.
@Barb yes I think the divorce and the outcome starting to hit her. @ Busgy she bought pizza. I was surprised and she didn't poison it. @Grace yes it was really hard but I kept my cool and compromised where I could. She even thanked me
Today I have to change the car into my name. That's the other big thing. After that I only have two more things to do. Get her off my health insurance and cell phone plan. This is definetly coming to an end. The good thing is that for some reason I have been sleeping well for the past few days?
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
Rick: You are sleeping well because you see the light at the end of the tunnel. I think when all those things we need to do and dread are swirling around in our heads - we can't sleep. But now you have a To Do List and a timeframe. The car thing is pretty easy.
I remember being at the point you were at - when you knew it was done and you were at peace with it (more or less). Then you can begin to live your life again. The way YOU want it.
So house and car are under my name. Next week I remove her from my insurance. I asked exw this morning if she had a tentative move out date? She got pissy? She said I have 45 days after I get the money. I said you are guaranteed the check by next Tuesday. She didn't answer. I also asked if she got a cell phone plan? She didn't answer. I informed Her that I will eliminate her from the plan end of this month. I will compromise on the phone since she keeps buying food.
Hope I don't sound cruel but I can live with her any more. It's just too uncomfortable.
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
I haven't followed your whole sitch, Rick, but I'm worried that she might be setting you up to be the bad guy. Here she is cooking for you and you're trying to kick her out on the street...
If she's not out in 45 days, would you be able to immediately call the sheriff to escort her out or would you merely be able to start some lengthy legal eviction process?
