Had a great night at church. Wife was pulling in about the same time as me and as she got out of her car she made sure to stare until i was looking so she could wave at me. Obviously I know i've been looking for anything to grab on to, but for sure this time she was trying to make sure I saw her and that she was waving at me b/c my son wasn't even with me. I know the vets can say i told you so and i welcome it but just as i've started to feel less needy and worrisome about this sitch is when she has started showing signs of interest.
Guess the whole push pull thing is true. Hopefully soon I can drop the rope completely and see what happens...for now im still holding on to it, but its sagging. LOL
Had a great night at church. Wife was pulling in about the same time as me and as she got out of her car she made sure to stare until i was looking so she could wave at me. Obviously I know i've been looking for anything to grab on to, but for sure this time she was trying to make sure I saw her and that she was waving at me b/c my son wasn't even with me. I know the vets can say i told you so and i welcome it but just as i've started to feel less needy and worrisome about this sitch is when she has started showing signs of interest.
Guess the whole push pull thing is true. Hopefully soon I can drop the rope completely and see what happens...for now im still holding on to it, but its sagging. LOL
Just take it for what it is, a very small sign of interest, and keep doing what you are doing.
Not trying to minimize the significance, but it isn't earth shattering. It MIGHT be a sign that what you are doing is beginning to work though. So note it.
Denver
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
Thanks Denver, and duly noted. Im just enjoying the moment and hoping that its a small step toward me but im not overly concerned with it right now. There's entirely too far to go to get overly excited about something like that. It was kind of nice that she was at least at that moment thinking of me, nothing more than that.
I am new to finally posting on this forum and my 1st post is in moderation, but congrats on your attitude. I didnt have that in me 3 years ago without having major thought disordered thinking bordering on ptsd. Keep positive about YOU and remain functional at work and in life.Ed
Ed
Me, 55 W, 36 T, 10 yrs S-9 M, 8 yrs 1st D-Day, 9-27-2009, With 1st bf, ea/pa 2nd D-Day, 12-5-2009, With her best friends bf, ea/pa W, AA relapse early 2009-Current W moved out 2-16-2012 New OM 5-2012
Yeah, keep your head on mate. You're doing well. definitely not the time to go gaga over her. Stay the course.
Cheers!
Freshman Class of 2012
M-49 W-42 1D-10 T 10 YEARS M 9 YEARS EA/MLC 07/2010 Separation 28/05/2012 PA confirmed 31/07/12 W Asked for D 31/07/12 D on and off the table since then
Im smiling through a Friday even though for some reason its awfully tough to do right now. I really have no reason to seem blue or down this morning but it has certainly been a morning that i'll be happy to see go. Im going to keep looking for the positives.....life truly is good. Maybe a good long run in the morning will lift my spirits.
Oh well either way im either getting better or used to the pain right? Friday is here, that means Friday night high school football here in the south. My son and I are headed out to eat and to the game so it will be one busy afternoon. Hope everyone has a great Friday night and an even better weekend.
M-49 W-42 1D-10 T 10 YEARS M 9 YEARS EA/MLC 07/2010 Separation 28/05/2012 PA confirmed 31/07/12 W Asked for D 31/07/12 D on and off the table since then
Wow what a lovely thread this is to read , its so uplifting . I'm so pleased for you Carnac that you are happy in yourself . The part where you said you cant stop smiling really made me smile and feel glad for you . Take care brothers and sisters
so with you there!