Turtles, Lists and Toilet Brushes

[2chiquitos]

Zig,
H n I have had these arguments before and it would happen more in the beginning from 0-6/7mos of sitch. Although everyone has their own timeline don't assume this argument is a deal-breaker.

I distinctly remember H saying, So you've been faking it this whole time! (referring to me acting 'as if').
OR
H saying, You've ruined any progress we've made. (i.e. we are DONE)

Since then we bounce back from these setbacks a lot faster and it actually brings us a lot closer!

What's the *magic*? That after we've both cooled down we open up and our true feelings come out in a much more constructive way. Nonjudgemental, More recognition of their feelings. IOW; more of a consensus.

I now realize that H is sooo much more sensitive then he comes off to be (as most men are!) AND I struggle to soften the blows. When I communicate, I throw punches!

I hope that if and when you both do talk that you're able to speak from a place within.

Sweety, we love you and want you to continue growing. It's all about PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION! Big hugs!!!

**Also, let S tell him the shoes didn't fit. Walk away sooner than you did. That was between H n S. Don't get yourself intertwined in that discussion. I get how you felt but you needed to detach from that discussion sooner. Do you seriously thing S is going to wear small shoes to school just cuz dad told him? If he does, he's going to complain to his teacher and teacher's gonna give you guys a call and H is going to learn ON HIS OWN that he needs to buy S some indoor shoes.

Also, How important is it??