Anita, My wife and I have been having problems for a long time. I did not realize it, but it has been 3 or 4 years since she said she felt happy about us. About two months ago she said that she wanted a divorce. Since then things have gotten much worse. She has actually filed, moved out of the house, and we are at the final hours. I can say with out a doubt that all of the begging, and trying to reason with her about why this is not good just does not work.
A friend of mine who went through a similar situation about one year ago lent me his "Divorce Remedy" book. It has been a great inspiration to me. I am attempting the "Last Resort Technique" I know what you are saying about it being REALLY HARD not to call or make contact. But I also know that every time I try to do it that way it backfires and things get worse. I am hopeful, but don't feel very confident that things are going to get better. The only thing that I can do at this point is work on myself and hope that she can see the baby steps.
I probably have read the book cover to cover 2 times and reread several passages through out in the past 4 days. It helps to focus on what I can do to make this better. I wish you the best and keep trying the 180s. There are several of us in the same boat. JUST KEEP TRYING!
