About to separate....

[mshaf]

Nail,

Sorry to hear about your situation. You need to accept that this will be one of the hardest things you will ever do. In the end you will come out the other side better.

That being said you need to start DBing like crazy. Your W has told you she wants space. Give it to her. Give her all the space she can handle. Do not initiate ANY conversations unless it's business. You have children and still live in the same house at the moment so you can't go completely dark. What you can do is make her approach you if she wants to talk. Make her miss you!!!

Don't get me wrong, when she talks listen to every word she says. Really listen! Be kind, caring, and attentive. Only do this when she talks to you. Do not go out of your way to be kind, caring, and attentive if she is doing her own thing. What I mean by that is use the opportunities she gives you, don't go seeking more.

GAL!GAL!GAL!!!

I say this because it worked for you. The night you went out with friends she missed you. She was wondering where you were, who you were with. You shocked her. That is a good thing.

You don't have to rude about this and don't take it to an extreme. Do things without letting her know. Make new friends. When she ask what you are up to be vague. Let her know that that you have been "doing some thinking" then shut up. Leave it up to her to figure out what that means.

Also you don't have to rollover because she threatens to move the D along faster if she does not get her way. She is going to hang the D over your head until it loses its power to get you to fall in line. She may say that you are pushing her away by not respecting her wishes, or your actions make a R impossible. Do not believe that. Become THE MAN. A man does not let fear stop him from doing the things he wants to do or getting the things he wants. Become a leader and she may follow.

Also become the best dad you can be. THIS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT THING YOU CAN DO. Every woman likes a man who is great with her kids.

You are lucky. You are still very early in the process, and while I can't know for sure, this may be to your advantage. You can stop her movement away from you before the distance seems insurmountable.

Good luck.