I had to forward W a work-related email yesterday, to which she responded in a strictly-business approach... letting me know she's working a temp job this week and will be back to her other duties starting tomorrow...
I responded to her email, answering the work related question she posed and ending with "Thanks W. I hope you're doing well".
Today, despite the lack of a response...
AT - First let me preface this by saying that I am not trying to hammer you, and I would not even consider this a 2x4. Just a little friendly strategic advice that you can improve on.
WHY did you respond? It was not necessary. She didn't ask you a question or for information.
I know that you said that you didn't feel a sting despite your W not replying to your response. I hope that's the case. But whenever you put the ball in HER court to reply, you usually will find yourself waiting for a reply, wondering why she did not reply.
INSTEAD, leave the ball in your court WHEN you can. She replied to your first email. Sure it was business like. She is trying to get a response from you. Trust me, it is not by accident that she is not being sweet to you.
So when she replied, the ball was in YOUR court. She was wondering how or if you'd reply to her. You should have left her wondering. Instead, she has you wondering again.
You might say, 'well denver, I was just being polite by responding and telling her that I hope she was doing well'. Nothing inherently wrong with that AT. But have you asked yourself why she didn't say to you, "Thanks for the info AT. I hope you are doing well."?
The reason? She is still playing the game better than you.
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
