do NOT contact OMs' wife. OMG...have you read the DB and DR books?
Did you read about that part? B/C it goes against it A LOT and for good reason. MANY good reasons I won't go into if this isn't really a possibility.
But if you are seriously thinking that you'll contact some woman you don't know, about an online affair and feelings your w has for someone else's h, WHILE your w has stopped contact, it'll hurt her deeply. And let me point out ONE possible outcome. It may end their marriage, which will free her h up for your wife...
Plus, I think You're acting out of anger and a desire to control your w and the outcome. That sounds like being someone you do not want to be.
Just stick with the work you need to do on YOU.
And read Sandi's post again, please.
Your wife is depressed and I hope she's getting treatment. BTW, did you know that 90% of women on anti-depressants have h's who are considered "critical".
Her depression is HER problem, true. But don't keep trying to maneuver this. Just work on you and give her something to miss.
Retrovaille is something WELL worth looking into and I think she might be willing to go.
Even if it's "just for the sake of the kids", get her there. It won't hurt...
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
