Still together but trying to save this

[hopefulinga]

Remember who you can control - YOU. Not her. Go back and look at the post you received about pursuing and look at the books. If your intent is to give her the book so that she will not forget the good times, then you are forcing your wishes on her. Your anxiety is showing through.

I had lots of ideas for my anniversay. Our D16 was out of town and we were alone for almost a month. It would have been our first anniversary alone in years. I feel what you are going through.

You can always keep the book and give it to her another time if the sitch gets better and tell her what it was for.