Hi Hopeful, I don't think this pursue/dark thing is always an "all or nothing game"...sometimes it seems more of a "dance"...test where W is at, lightly pursue, see what happens...then either back-off or take another tiny step forward, depending on her reaction. FWIW, I have been letting W lead the dance for the most part, as she changes I re-evaluate, and do the above...kinda like a light dimmer switch (which has been getting a lot of use).
Main thing is to NOT show or project (e.g., when on phone) impatience or desperation...detach.
Maybe this re-location will help you detach, new locale, people, etc. A whole new world of GAL, if you take advantage of it, make lemonade....
Has MIL made any comments about things and the new changes (re-location), you mentioned her before...?
T^2
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
