Here goes: My H dropped the bomb, "I love you but I'm not in love" on 4/21. I was totally devastated but I knew things were not great for a while. We both did things to sabotage the marriage but I didnt take his "warnings" seriously. That was a big mistake. Anyway about a month after that I discovered hotel key cards from a famous hotel chain in his car. He was spending nights away but I didn't question him because he was so angry. Anyway I decided to go to that hotel one morning when he wasn't home and I sat outside for 4 hours and then my world came crashing. I saw him come out of there, holding hands and kissing with one of his married bosses! I had NO idea it would be her. When he got into car I confronted her and let her know what I thought. That was bad. About 10 days later (6/5) he moved out and moved closer to where she lives, which is almost an hour away from me and work. BTW, he flatly denied anything sexual happened. Yeah right. So for a while I was numb, crying all the time, begging and pleading with him to come home and work things out. He said he's "not there" yet. So I went through periods of deep depression and then ranting at him and then realizing it did no good. I've been quiet for about a week now. Oh, I'm 59 and he's 58; we have 3 kids but one (19 yrs old) thats both of ours. The other 2 are from previous marriages. We're together 20 yrs. I don't want to divorce and he said he doesn't want to because he's never getting married again. My dilemma is I want him home and I'm trying to live my life and doing things but my heart is broken. Anyone for advice? I thank you in advance.
M-59 H-58 2 S, 1 D 2 Gr. Ch. T 20 YRS M 17 YRS ILYBINILWY 4/21/12 Caught H and OW 5/25/12 H Left 6/5/12
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