IH Separation-continuing to grow as we grow apart

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Goal 2 plan continued

- I will take more ownership of our finances by drawing up a budget & look for ways to make the money coming in go further for more enjoyable things, such as days / nights out, clothes and hair and beauty treatments.

Goal 3. Organisation - I want to be more organised, manage my time better so I can be available more to my W / family and friends.

Plan for Goal 3

- I will keep on top of my Uni work better by organising my workload and assignments into mini tasks - looking for ways to maximise the use of my time to get them done quickly (especially when I am not with my W and children).
- This can be organised with to-do-lists and targets in my diary. For example, I will finish my introduction to this essay (500 words) by tomorrow

- I will prepare clothes & packed lunches the night before, so we start our day not rushing & I will then have time to make a drink, fix breakfast.

- My goal is to keep 1 full day at the weekend free to spend with my kids & will make it fun with things like going to the local park, movies, museum, visiting friends & family.

- The knock on effect for this is that my W will have the option to join us if she likes, do something in the house, relax or do something for herself. It is also win - win for me as I will get to spend a fun day with my kids every week

Goal 4. Spend time with my Wife alone together outside the house - This could be walks, coffee, shopping, eating out, dancing, movies, days out, breaks.


Plan for goal 4 -
-After monitoring the results of my 1st three goals for say a month or so I will ask my W out for coffee / breakfast on a Saturday or Sunday morning - making all of the arrangements for childcare & where & when.

- I will ask this without fear of rejection & stick with the first 3 goals & leave it another month before asking again if she says no.

I will monitor progress of all 3 primary goals and start a new thread like Zig's for goal setting.

Feel free to chip in with any advice or criticism, I think I can give these 3 goals a real shot whilst I am at home - goal 4 is really just something to aim for in the future.

Thanks Bill