Still together but trying to save this

[hopefulinga]

My 17th anniversary was between the 2 times my H has said the D word. I bought a card but decided that I would not give it to him unless he made a conscious recognition of the day. He made one comment about it at breakfast and later in the day I wished him a happy anniversay. I bought my own flowers and cooked a nice meal. I did not give him the card.

You may want to see how dinner goes before you decide. And you may want to save that as a gift to yourself. If she is telling you that she doesn't want to try right now, what do you think her reaction will be if you give her an album full of pictures of the two of you? Do you think it will help or hurt your position?