Turtles, Lists and Toilet Brushes

[needgrace]

(((((((((((((sweet zig)))))))))


DBing does not mean they get to be in CONTROL of everything, just their own lives..

what stands out to me too is what bug said...H telling your son what shoes fit him. and how h started packing up the other old shoes (did he ask you?)..

if he did not want to go to the store last night, how about him nicely asking S if he could manage wearing those for a few days until they could get new ones?

and him throwing out there that you haven't changed.. as if one incident outweighs all the compassionate ways you have treated him during this... the way you handled the day at the mediator, that was a gift to him.. and so many other days that you have showed him true grace and compassion.. for him to try and negate those due to this small incident does not seem fair.

i think in some way he is using it to defend himself against his own guilt..

he may have already realized some of this..it would be interesting to hear what he says when you are ready to talk about it with him.