Well another fabulous day down on Cape Town. The gardener is on his way to give the grass a trim. And while I wait it gives me a moment to reflect and give thanks.
Michele has a phrase "keep doing what works". And like the fabulous lady she is, she's right.
Finding yourself is the key. The right self. The selfLESS. Practice it and it'll become a habit. One I won't give up easily. It's the fundamental building block that all things hinge on (whoa! Do blocks have hinges?).
Reach that point and two things will happen - related things.
1. You'll be in a better space. A space in which you'll be able to process all the weirdness that may, or may not, pop up.
2. Things will just"happen". Maybe things still "happen" it's just that you'll actually notice it/them by finding yourself that "space".
Serenity - I hope I'm making sense here. Strangely it does to me. I read what your answer was about the heart and the mind - a loaded question if ever there was one. And I understand your answer - the mind because the heart can change easily. Well that's what makes it a loaded question. Because whichever one the W chooses, and has chosen by what others are telling me, she's actually thinking that maybe, just maybe D isn't the way to go. It's what I choose to do with the budding situation that counts. The choice is to avoid getting into this situation again.
There's a few people on this board who are stars in offering their help and assistance who have been trapped in a revolving door on more than one occasion. Only to FINALLY twig what's causing it and fixing the cause. Whatever that may be.
I want to join that team. I want to devote myself to the family. Not money, not possessions, but just family. It will take ongoing work. I've finally found somewhere which will help and someone. Where? The church and the pastor. I have the strongest feeling that he's prepared to beat up anyone who doesn't toe the line
Changes are on the way. It'll sure take time because this didn't happen overnight.
And now? Keep doing what works.
Cheers one and all but especially zig and serenity ((((to you both))))
