month 4

[Arsene]

Guys!! Super uplifting thread!! I'm glad to see that all of you are on a good vibe these days.

I'm only 4 months in as well, but based on reading DB and DR (more than once) I'd say that if you've seen no baby steps then you definitely should try something different. If there are no baby steps then what you're doing isn't working.
Definitely don't initiate any R talks. Let her do that. Asking her to dinner is probably a bit much too. A DB move would be more along the lines of coming up with something she might like to do (sailing, ceramics class, whatever) and tell her you're going and ask if she'd like to join you. If she says "no" then act as if that's fine with you, and you go anyway. There's much less pressure in this scenario, she's going along with you to something you want to do anyway rather than being pressured into accepting a "date".

Good idea from AS. What about planning something with your S (that your W might like to do) and mentioning it in passing? Family time might get you guys doing something together and might be a step towards something else?

3 cheers for the class of 2012!!!