It's so funny how people can have such visions of fairy tale relationships without thinking how buch crap they have to go through to even begin to touch that level of an R. Commited R's take lots of work to MAKE them work so if you don't plan on putting the work in or you plan on giving up on the first or second speed bump the DONT make the commitment!! It would save a bucket full of tears and one hell of a heartache.
After going through my situation that put me in DB-land in the first place, yes a real relationship felt like a lot of work and compromises. But when you've had it stripped from you against your will, and hanging around here, we realize it's not a lot of work at all. Simply responsibility to yourself and your relation partner.
