Just to add. I didn't talk about or ask what my wife was doing at least for the last 2 months. It seems this total turn around is due to the truth coming out and now there's no need for them to pretend anymore. That's my gut feeling and if I'd went with my gut feeling from day 1 I wouldn't have been chasing my tail looking for answer and getting responses designed to deflect away from the affair. In her defence of hiding the infidelity she was able to just list a massive reason for why our marriage failed. I always knew she was adding things on constantly to push me away but I wasn't gonna stand there and be lied to and made a fool out of. My tactic now is now she's been honest with me show her the honesty has worked and we can begin to talk with no presure or anger because she has shown me respect.
Is that the correct way to do it? Do not contact her, let her contact me and when she does be strong and show her her honesty has changed the situation to a situation that's workable but without me not following my principles. Is this the correct approach?
Kevin.
Me-38W-28. M-2 1/2. Together-7 years OM-14/4/12 Told M in trouble-17/4/12 BD-5/6/12 S-5/6/12 ProofOM-17/06/12 Start to change me-31/08/12 EA+PA-14/04/12-now
