Yea I always knew the things am being told. Funny enough though I actually thought the friends were trying to help me but it's clear they were trying to hide her affair from me and now it's out they don't have to try and be nice anymore.
Anyway, as strange as it seems it's been a relief in a way that the truth is out. It gives me hope that there is a bit of respect there that she was able to do the right thing. For me it's taken away alot of anger. It really drove me up the wall the lies I was being told knowing it was lies but trying to listen to her (dont believe anything they say).
I think now the lies are out and hopefully never to return again I can start improving me. GAL, become a stronger man just like I was at the start of our relationship. Am not going to support this divorce she's going to have to do this all herself. The idea of an agreed seperation (Scottish law) and after a year we get an agreed divorce is not going to happen. I will let her know politely and calmly that these are not my principles (and there not) I don't agree with divorce and I don't think divorce is the answer to our problems so I will not support it and you have to do it alone. Secondly I will tell her again my principles are she turned her back on our marriage but I am not going to allow her to trample all over what we worked hard together for and with that in mind her OM is not to enter our marital home. I don't intend on being angry or treating about it but very assertive and stating this is the man I am and the principles I believe in and are non negotiable.
Tips and advice on this would be handy so I don't make a mess of things.
Kevin.
Me-38W-28. M-2 1/2. Together-7 years OM-14/4/12 Told M in trouble-17/4/12 BD-5/6/12 S-5/6/12 ProofOM-17/06/12 Start to change me-31/08/12 EA+PA-14/04/12-now
