I didn't realize that encouraging our conversations and responding to his advances could be pressure on him...because HE was initiating. I figured if he wasn't interested in the thought of us, he would have dropped the subject (and the passion) by now.
The first issue of trust to overcome is to see if he can trust what I say. I said a lot of mean and horrible things in the end of R. That's all on me, I was reflecting my fears and insecurities on him. As for having him believe what I say now, that can only be done through consistency and regular contact. That's why I keep responding to contact.
And he doesn't want to see a MC yet. Not until he decides what comes next. He is wondering if he should just take some time and be alone for awhile. No more OW, but no more R with me either.
Yes, the sex should stop. It's only messing with both of our heads (and my heart). My gut feeling is that if he can't stand to spend time with me outside the bedroom, why should I be playing with him in it.
I've got a busy week, that should allow me to keep my distance and will give him some space. But I'm not going anywhere. Well, unless he can say "no" instead of "I don't know". And if that takes 6 weeks, 6 months or longer...I will wait until I feel I can't anymore.
