Rough: Im not winning the 'distancer chicken' match, but im not losing right now either. I think we're even and possibly at a stalemate. But I saw the smallest of signs last night that she has some interest...it was only a couple of waves during practice but right now I'll take it.
We dont even talk about finances, although soon we're going to have to because our tax extension runs out on October 15th and my accountant is breathing down my neck to get her the information she needs. Lucky for me she's a good friend of mine and we used to work together so she understands the situation and understands why im not willing to talk to my wife about it right now. Im seriously not going to attempt any conversation that isn't related to our boys right now. When and if it gets too close to October to hold out any longer i'll send her an email or text about needing to get some tax related documents, but if she wants space she's getting it from me.
If she starts trying to chat with me i'll feel more comfortable asking, but for now im not going to. And I don't feel like I have to win or that its some game, its really been good for me the last week or two to not have any conversations with her, I feel like im detaching a little. I still think I have a long way to go, but its slowly working.
Keep your head up Rough, this is a hard road we've chosen to walk and im proud to say that im walking it and that others choose their marriage as well. The easy way is to divorce, its much harder to make changes for the better especially when those changes start with you.
