So here's my story part 2

[Denver_2010]

Good job again, Afa. I'm here for you.
Whatever she's saying about knowing you would get D is BS. If she had known, she wouldn't have married you.

What you want to get away from is the role of the poor guy who's crazy about his W and she's leaving him behind. Show her you're strong and that you value yourself. Show her you can take this and that you are okay (even if it's really, really hard and might not be entirely true at this moment.) If she brings back the topic of the div of assets, tell her to get herself a laywer and that you'll do the same, and that when it's time, you can talk about it. Don't bring the topic again.

Remember this: when someone says he wants a D, it really doesn't mean anything until some time has passed. I freaked out when my H said it; got a L, even started packing up my stuff. Bad idea. We then went back and forth for about 2 years. His A is what messed everything up. But basically, if I hadn't freaked out and practiced the DB techniques, maybe we would've been okay now. So please don't make the same mistakes I made.

I'll check in again later when work allows...

I tend to agree afa.

At this point, I would calmly, and politely, tell her:

"I agree that you should move out as long as you are in contact with OM and unwilling to work on our marriage. For now, I am willing to let you take what you need. We can work out the other assets once we both are ready to move forward and have had a chance to consider what is fair to each of us. That is going to take some time. afa"