afa75, i have to say that you have an opportunity to really employ DB right now, IMO. I too believe if i had known DB two years ago i might have been in a different place now with my M. Give DB the best you can its an optimal chance and, it seems you still have one.

so many of us have heard the reality/am done/finished speech. a lot of that speech is coming out of fear and and emotion.

i agree with tori2012 use this boards not only to grow and hopefully save your M, but to learn from our mistakes as well.

TPS
Me: 44 H: 42
M14 T17
S10 D7
10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month
21/04/12 H is 'DONE'
04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010)
July '14 H ends affair
May '15 H moves back home