@Rick: Yes they are equalized. We are taking more than half out as a means to pay off the debt we accumulated and begin anew with clean slates. X has changed the amount she can use as discretionary funds three times through modifications of the QDRO. The amount she is taking does not change. How it is distributed or rolls over does.
The effects of her changes are she pays more in penalties and taxes, and of course the delay induced by each of these changes. She made some very poor monetary decisions just after she filed in December. Taking most of the distribution as available funds seems to be the corner she painted herself into.
By the time this is settled and the funds are distributed I’ll be able to demonstrate to the bank how I’ve been able to pay all of my debts, spousal support and mortgage included for six months.
So these delays actually will benefit me with the refinance of the house. Once the refinance is accomplished I should be able to breathe a little easier and have a little discretionary money available. So the future is a little brighter on that front.
Journaling: On Friday DIL asked if I could babysit. So I spent Friday night play with my GD. She is crawling now. Not up on all fours yet, she is practicing her low crawl, elbows and knees. She is getting around exploring her world. DIL has given up trying to keep her on a play blanket.
Sat DIL asked me to provide a ride to the auto repair place and later she, son and GD visited my mother. Mom was very happy and still excited when I visited her a few hours later.
Sun I managed to get the yardwork accomplished for two of the houses. Then back to work.
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
