Yes he calls and emails you, but bottom line is that he told you he wasn't interested or at least not yet, in a relationship.
"Are you saying I should be ignoring him? How will that help?"
No you don't have to ignore him, you just don't have to jump into bed with him.
"And he's not the only one who is stressed! I'm changing jobs, moving AND trying to save my M - all at the same time!"
You never mentioned he was stressed. At least here you admit this is for you.
Look, bottom line is that you kept pushing him away and after reading all of the things you said you did, from a guy's point of view, you're lucky he didn't dump you from the get go. Just being honest.
The issue that hasn't been addressed or healed is the issue of trust. Right now, the sex, light conversations don't address the issue. They're just band aids. Because the trust issue hasn't been taken care of, it WILL come back again. I don't know how many posters have come here, done the exact thing you did, thought their M was healed, and then came back because they went back into their old habits and didn't heal the base problem that got them there in the first place.
If you feel the need to talk to him, then suggest C for the two of you or go to a retreat like Retrouvaille or a private session with MWD. It will open your eyes for the two of you.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
