I have been backing off from her trust me I have little to no contact with her and it is usually about the kids. Yesterday was at the advise of my addiction/marriage counselor. She recommended it when i asked her about it. Retrouvaille is not just about healing a marriage it is also about communicating with your wife which is very important when you have 3 kids. The communcation between us even with the kids is pretty much nonexistant. The only opportunity to do this retreat was now or wait a year and then it would be around the time for the divorce to be finalized. The person over the phone that I talked to recommended I do it asap or they would fill up.
When I proposed the idea to her I said yes the main goal is to heal a marriage but more importantly it is about learning to communicate and that my therapist, who agrees that counselling is not really a good idea right now, said we would both benefit from it.
M:30 W:31 D:6&1 S:3 Married 9 years 8/8/2012 ILYBNILWY Bomb Dropped: July 2012 Legally Separated: 8/3/2012