Dealing with Anger

[Arsene]

I hear you bug. I am not disclosing my present income to her but she asked me yesterday how much I was making - I was vague, saying I made enough for me and D8 to live and when she pressed on I just had to lie (and i feel bad about it but I feel that she might just take advantage of it if she knew).

She had said that she would pay for D8's school and health insurance but already, she is finding it difficult and said she was shopping for another health insurance.

With what I'm on, I could probably take care of all of these expenses in a few months but I think it's only fair she should contribute to some of D8's expenses. Obviously, if the time came when she couldn't I would cover for her, but probably in the form of a loan.

I am not doing this to punish her but I am not going to help her live this life she is choosing for herself either. IMO, It's also important that she realises that she is still responsible (at least partly) for D8.

Re: W leaving the country with D8? Difficult. Locals pretty much need a visa to go just about anywhere and it's usually a long , costly process. They also get turned down a lot, especially when they can't show sufficient funds.