Afa, don't rush the discussion about the division of things. It will create a clear picture in both of your minds that your M is over. LEt her take the lead. Remember, you don't want this, so let her do the work. I took on all the work when my H said he wanted a D and it just made things worse.
Your focus now: to let the dust settle, to let her digest her own feelings about her D proposal, to be at peace, to create a feeling of acceptance and love when you two talk. Don't initiate any conversations or texts or anything. If she texts you, okay, reply, but don't initiate anything.
And your goal is to save your M. Mine too. That's why we're here and that's why Michelle wrote the DB book. Hang in there.
