Got a little insight on the discussion the other night. W said that she felt I was trying to control her, trying to push her towards the answer I wanted. I wonder if that is just an excuse to avoid thinking about it, because I honestly am interested in her perceptions...I already know what I think about it.
I realize I've been controlling, and it's been a long time so her defensive mechanisms are probably automatic. But these days, it seems like I can't say anything, even positive, without it being construed as controlling.
