"W also said that she'd occasionally asked D8 if she wanted to go live with her at some point and D8 had in the past shown excitement at the idea, however, W said that the last time she'd asked, D8 had replied that she was happy with me and that she was ok here. W said she was happy to hear that. I'm not sure what to make of this."
Red flag. She's starting to think of escape plans with your D.
"I'm now quite confused about what to do in my sitch. I thought I was learning and doing the right thing and that my plan was a good one."
Yep.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.