Super DBer my ass!!!! LOL it's funny my mom is here and while that's been stressful it's made me realise how much she taught me about accepting people and being open minded (in her own weird way) and being positive. My dad was a dreamer and her hated that. But I got both of those traits.
You are creating a great you! Like bug says it was always there..."just waiting for this moment to arrive" I love that song! And good for you for recognising codependent people. I told a friend of mine what a guy had told me after one date and she said that's so sweet and I said no that's creepy. Plus because my son is old enough to notice things I want to set a good example.
put your cape on! lol.. i guess my DB is more than savin my marriage. it is about saving me. if i cant fix myself, how can i fix a marriage. i do believe that i could save it if i truly wanted to now. i dont. i dont want the baggage and drama that W has done nothing to change.
you have taught me alot about finding myself. enjoying the small things. not a day goes by that i dont tell myself to stop and eat a strawberry. my life is getting better when i dont plan for certain outcomes. i do the best i can and let the chips fall where they may. amazingly they seem to fall in my lap alot more these days.
its amazing what we can learn from our moms. mine teaches me something all the time. the key for me is to listen with an open mind. i do the 24 hr thing bug told me to alot.
put your cape on! lol.. i guess my DB is more than savin my marriage. it is about saving me. if i cant fix myself, how can i fix a marriage. i do believe that i could save it if i truly wanted to now. i dont. i dont want the baggage and drama that W has done nothing to change.
you have taught me alot about finding myself. enjoying the small things. not a day goes by that i dont tell myself to stop and eat a strawberry. my life is getting better when i dont plan for certain outcomes. i do the best i can and let the chips fall where they may. amazingly they seem to fall in my lap alot more these days.
its amazing what we can learn from our moms. mine teaches me something all the time. the key for me is to listen with an open mind. i do the 24 hr thing bug told me to alot.
Dakota
Does it feel good to know, that once you have taken care of you, that you will get what's coming to you? It may not be your wife, and keep in mind that none of us are perfect, you may be just fine as a person with opportunities and capabilities. However the situations that bring us into db-land do take a lot out of you, you never think about it going into it.
you are so right. i didnt think about anything but saving my marriage when the bomb dropped. lookin back, it is amazing i didnt have a nervous breakdown. i didnt sleep, eat or take care of my mental health. it feels good to know i will be ok. i am nowhere near bein out of the woods, with being happy all the time. i am getting used to it a little though.
brit-
im not doing that good. im gettin better everyday. i still get caught in stinking thinking alot. i am really starting to feel happy. havent heard on the D. supposed to have been this week. starting to get worked up over it.
Dakota, you sound great these days. Your focus and progress has been inspirational to me. I'm thrilled that you've started school. Work, school, kids - you've got a lot going on. Just keep breathing and remember to take care of you.
Ok.. so it has been awhile. I have been soooo busy.. uugghh.. working 55+ hrs a week, school full time, kids, and now hockey has started.. thank god for that! i still go to my AA meetings. got my 1 yr pin last month, so now my sponsor wants me to sponsor someone.. i dont know what i think of that. still am not divorced which is starting to irritate me. i ask what is going on and get the run around. maybe its mind reading, but i think she is playing this out till the end of the year for tax and financial aid purposes. oh well. i am too busy to worry about that. im really getting burnt out on everything. there are a couple hockey games this weekend, so that will take my mind of stuff and let me relax. i might even have a date which will be cool. usually i go alone or with the kids, when i have them. I am so glad that the techniques i have learned here are still working for me. i am becoming the man only a fool would leave.
