I wonder if it's because we have so many options in life now. Not really sure why this happens.
I believe she will come around and you will have a stronger marriage for it. I'm so sorry that it has to cause you pain in the meantime. I think if you do as you described above, she is going to realize all she has to do is open her eyes to the man who has been with her and loved her all along.
Pulling for you-
Coming from someone with a lot of experience on this board, this really means a lot to me. I hope you're right, I hope I can hold out long enough, and I love you. (hay, I can't say that to my W right now, so what the heck!)
On another positive note, we have both agreed to not tell any of our family about our situation. Her because she figured she'll be labeled the bad guy for wanting to leave wonderful me, and me because I learned early on from my first 'not to be named' source for marriage saving guidance that telling the world was unhelpful... which DB advice agrees with completely.
I have one friend I confided in, and he "gets it" and is very supportive to me. Still, I can't bury him alive with my problem, that would push him away. Therefore this board provides a necessary support group for us all.
Thank you DB forum members and mods!
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
