My W has said she'll keep things as they are until the new year and also still wants to go on the family holiday to mexico next august that we had booked about 6 months ago , (which weve still got to pay for ), but come january she wants a trial separation with no dates between ourselves and minimal contact .
This is good news. She's comfortable enough to stay in the same house as you, and go on vacation together. This gives you some time. Don't smother her. Give her some space while you continue working on yourself during this period.
What are her complaints about you or the marriage? That's where you start working. Don't tell her, let her see the new you. You might consider taking a course on being more assertive.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
