I tend to agree with Sandi. She definitely knows what she is talking about and offers the perspective of a WAW.

She's also absolutely right about why your W won't change in front of you. Same thing happened to me very soon after the bomb. I didn't see my W change clothes until almost 19 months later.

My guess is that this separation is going to push your W farther into her EA. I also don't think that that's necessarily a bad thing if YOU handle it right. You have to let her go down this path. It's the only chance that you have.

M 43
X 38
T 13
W moves out of home 11/2010
Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012
I request divorce 5/2012
W moves home 6/2012
Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015
I leave 3/2016
process of divorce