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[badcompany]

What do you mean 'is she still runnin away ?'

[Cadet]

Is she aking you to trust her
or is she still running away.

You were discussing transparency and you said there is no OM.

I asked you how you know this.
Because thransparency is her proving to you that she is IN the marriage and that there is no OM.

I personally would not believe anything she says.
So an action would be required for her to prove it.
Sustained actions day after day.

So above I asked you if she was asking you to trust her.

Or if she was running away or avoiding the question.

Is your marriage now on solid ground?
If it is then you need transparency.
If it is not then you should not be trusting her.

Sorry if I was not clear.

[badcompany]

Thanks, that explains a lot.

[badcompany]

Definitely still cycling. Going to therapist weekly.

[badcompany]

been trying to GAL, but around wife and kids so much. W wants to do things and go places, hold hands, ML .....

[MrBond]

" W wants to do things and go places, hold hands, ML ....."

So what's the problem?

[AnotherStander]

been trying to GAL, but around wife and kids so much. W wants to do things and go places, hold hands, ML .....

Why in the world are you trying to GAL when your wife is sending signals to you that she wants an intimate relationship? If I read your posts correctly, you had problems years ago and reconciled. The GAL concept is to help those whose spouse has checked out either emotionally or physically (or both). It's a tool to distance oneself from the wayward spouse while they're sorting their thoughts out. Once you reconcile then you need to switch gears to keeping the relationship strong, which in many ways is the opposite of GAL.

[badcompany]

appearances

[MrBond]

I still don't get it. She tells you still that she wants a D and then does all these things?

[badcompany]

I think you guys missed some posts . W started bein emotionally distant about 7 weeks ago. Turned out to be depression. See post Below

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...716#Post2267716